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Waiting For Dorthy To Call

I recently left a message for friends of my parents.  They go way back in the FALC about 50 years.  I wanted to know how they came to know them and how they were so close in church and in their social lives and not "know" about my father Ray Huhta.

My father worked as a logger with church members.  He also worked with church ministers.  They went deer hunting together.  He blended right in.  They spoke Finnish together.  It was a mans world. 

I am still waiting for her to call me back.  

I am also the one who heard about sexual abuse still happening in the FALC recently and then I started making phone calls. I did not "know" anybody in Cokato, Zion, Minneapolis and have left the Copper Country and the FALC about 28 years ago.

 I let this all flow organically.  I had no other "mission" and my only concern was to investigate and be a "voice" for someone like me who had been sexually abused.  I was familiar with some of the last names.  I did not always have a face with a name.  I did find a name of a young boy and others. 

I called people who were blood relatives and ministers.  I called and sent emails and letters to anybody who would listen to me.  I did not question their "faith" and I did not "doubt" their stories.  Victims came forward.  I kept talking to the people who were willing to talk. 

Nobody apologized from within the FALC organization for not doing anything for my family.  We had zero value to them.  Nobody went to the authorities when all 14 of us Huhta's were growing up.  Victims told my mother.  Neighbors told my mother.  She went to church.  He kept on molesting.  It went on for generations.  Victims told their parents.  Their parents did nothing.  Victims told the main minister in Calumet.  He did a meek attempt at "confronting" my father.  My mother did not ask what the minister came to "visit" about.  He never went to the authorities.  He got "involved" when it became personal to him.  And that was years later.  And it was not for my family.

I was met with "indifference" from the blood relatives and the FALC Chairman of the Board said he will not investigate their own.  Keep in mind most of these people have known me and my family since I was born.  They watched our family come in and out of Sunday School, Bible Class and Church.  

Year after Year.

They also "blessed" my "parents" year after year.  I too, was "blessed" with these kind people who did nothing.  Said nothing.  Still say nothing.  I was stunned at the lack of "concern" from the people who could make a difference within the FALC.  

Stunned at the reaction when I asked about the welfare of their grandson.  Stunned at the reaction from within the FALC.  Stunned that the list of pedophiles grew and grew.  Stunned at the amount of damage that had been going on for years.  Family trees had names going back for generations that were "known" abusers.  New ones kept popping up.  Old ones had died and had left a wake of devastation buried after them.

Never arrested.  Never investigated.  

Allowed to roam the pews and basements of the FALC.  Allowed to preach and to have access to children.  Allowed to do whatever they wanted to.  

Sometimes I wonder if this is really happening.  Sometimes I wonder if this is all a bad dream.  I keep waiting for the people I thought I knew as a kid to wake up and listen.  Sometimes I just wonder.  Sometimes.

I wonder about the little boy in Cokato.  I wonder if he is scared shit less like I was when I was molested.  I wonder if he is safe.  I wonder if he cries at night hoping somebody will "guess" what is wrong.  I wonder if I am wrong.  I hope I am.  My gut instinct says I am not.  Too much has been said to me.  I cannot pretend to pretend that all is well.  Other victims have told me they were molested by the same man.  I want to believe he was somehow spared.  It never works out like that in my experience.  They spare nobody given the chance to abuse.

I also wonder how many other victims there are still in their organization.  I wonder if they will get help.  I wonder if anybody believes them.  I wonder if they are left with the burden of an "untold" story. Forgiven and forgotten.

I wonder how the ones who say they will do "something" when and if they hear about it.  I wonder how I can find so much information in so little time with minimal effort.  I wonder why they cannot find it themselves.  I wonder why when they hear of the abuse it is called a "rumor".  I wonder.

I am starting to see "comments" on the Ex-toots Blog and others.  They sound the same as the voices on the line and in emails.  They sound like the grandparents.  Their words fall out and lie flat.  Empty.  

They protect and defend.  They talk and they talk.  On a blog that goes nowhere.  To people who have already left their church.  To people who have been deeply affected by the sexual abuse.  They comment anonomously mostly.  

They abuse with their words.  Perhaps they don't mean it.  My father didn't mean it either.  He said he couldn't help it.  Maybe they cannot help it either.  I wonder how people who abuse can have so many people "talking" for them.  My father never said anything.  He just kept asking for a "blessing" and they kept talking about their "faith".

I wish I was bitter.  I wish I didn't care about any of this.  I wish it was really about their "faith".  Then I could just walk away.  Like I did many years ago.  Believing it was just bad fate for our screwed up family and me.  But its not.  It's personal.

It gets personal when you hear of the sexual abuse of children. Anywhere.  It gets personal when you hear details so horrid that I could not even begin to make it up.  It gets personal when you get to know the walk of the victims.  It gets personal when you feel and sense the injustice of it all.  It just does.

So you can question me.  Question my past. Friend me on Facebook. Call me.  Read my blog.  It's all there for you to pull apart.  Say what you need to say.  Call me names.  I kinda like that.  Ask me what I now know.  Ask a question.  Any question.   I hope that you really care about this issue and bring this to people that can do something about it. Your members have tried the Board.  They don't know what to do either. Literally.  They are lost too.  They will not "confront" anybody.

Anywhere.  They are scared.  And have no tools or training.

Please do it.

For a kid.  

Like me.

Who only wanted for somebody to notice.

That I was not "normal".

Its your life.  

You will live to know what I am saying is true.

I wish it wasn't.

For your sake.

Not mine.  

Carl A. Huhta  




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This is so similar to my liife in the falc I cried like a baby. I left the church and when trying to explain the pSychological, spiritual, sexual, and emotional abuse and damage it left me. The real world sees me as the myrtyr, seing the wirld in a different light, so unbelievable Im lieing! Thank you for this! Just knowing Im not alone and how you turned out supports me in knowing I am NORMAL!!


I made a typo in my posting.....I meant to say that those who abuse others SHOULD NOT be able to hide.


Carl, are you able to share the names of the abusers with us so that we know who to watch out for and who to warn others of? My heart goes out to you and to all of the others that have been abused. If you don't want to share those names here, you could send me a private conversation via facebook. People that abuse others should be able to hide...their names should be posted on huge outdoor bulletin boards with their faces on them for all to see. Audrey


I'm reading with goosebumps racing up and down my spine. I'm so sorry for what you went through. I appreciate the courage it takes to go public with your story. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.

daisy at


The value of posts like this is not to change the minds of the elders...but to crack into the minds of the young parents. The seed will be planted, they now have some knowledge, it will hopefully take root and continue to grow. It is my hope they will read and won't deny what has been laid out. Maybe take a second look and question. Maybe not turn a blind eye. Maybe help protect their own or help them heal if it comes to that. Our children are young now and it is past time for all the young children to be safe. Thank you for having the courage to share your story and I believe it will help others. Thank you


Very well said. I shared this post with several others; it needs to be spread far and wide, in yet another attempt to reach someone who might finally hear. I understand that some truly have no idea of the scope of the abuse, but soon there won't be any excuse for them to say 'I didn't know'.
Beth, what you said at the end of your comment reminds me of that place in the Bible where it says that people will say 'peace, peace, when there is no peace'.


Beautiful and Powerful Carl.


Wow Carl, powerful stuff...I cried too. Thank you for this.

I M Perfect

Brilliantly tragic, profoundly honest and extremely frustrating. We are talking to the people who won't hear, and I, like you, fear for the children walking behind us, hoping against hope, someone will be brave and do the uncommon thing.

We are speaking for the silent ones suffering.

We are saying what they are trying to say.

We are hoping an Adult voice without an agenda, will be heard.

Thanks Carl for saying what you needed to say. And thanks for making the calls, doing the emails, knocking on the souls of many trying to spare but one boy.

For each time we reach out and ask a question and get no response, our 'faith' in the 'friends' of the past crumble and fall on the floor flat.

Our faith in things changing, in children being spared, falls lower and lower...

Oh My God people, what will it take to wake you up out of your apathy???

As Carl said, a man who hasn't been near the church in 30 years, made a couple of phone calls and was up to his neck in abuse, victims and indifference!

Imagine what would happen IF everyone who ever associated with an FALC person were to do the same?

My greatest fear is no one will ask.
No one will hear.
And no one will care.

Yet all say to each other "God's Peace."

How is there peace with so much abuse, I'd question that saying and who you are saying it to.


This made me cry.
Beautiful words.
Horrible facts.
All true...

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